Many people may fantasize about an orgy, a threesome or more. Some even try it out, some have a great experience, others are woefully disappointed.
Unfortunately, sometimes the fantasy was better. Not surprisingly, as nothing surpasses your own inner realm, in most cases. Some get a great kick out of it.
But in a relationship, the bond of the swinger couple must be amazing.
The reservation is the motive. Selfishness is the worst way, it will lead to failure.
Most lovers love to see their partnes enjoy themselves. To be able to see your partner enjoy themselves with another must the a horrific experience. I think though of the person who are able to let themselves go so completely as to give their most dearest, so that they may succum to this experience must be an immense act of love.
Like BDSM, things aren't what they seem at all. The one in restraint is the one in control. It is a roleplay, rules known to the participants.
To give yourself to another is the ultimate act of love. To set them free is just as great an act. To let you partner enjoy themselves in sensual rapture in the way they desire is a massive thing to do - if it is consentual.
Like masturbation it is only a sin if it is considered so. The hard part may be the guilt and shame of enjoying it. If the jealousy is overwhelming, maybe the motives weren't the right one. You would have to be pretty sure of your partner to handle it.
Most sex columns I've read warn against it. I am not sure if I'd engage in it with my partner, but that would be enitrely up to the situation of our lives then. You might hear the stories where they failed this "test". Once in a while in variuos chat forums, some simply write "tried it, and liked it". But has it ever saved or enhanced a romance or a love life? What do you think?
