How to Start Swinging? (Part I )

Many find the swinging lifestyle by accident. Through some self thoughts begin to look into it. Some point or another brings it to the attention of the partner if there is one. If the interest is sparked they will continue learning. That speed varies, no one can be pushed. Sometimes it will start out as little things voyeurism, and exhibition, and reading stories, watching porn, going into cams. Talking learning what they see and hear is a turn on. Working toward the goal of what they dream about, wish for, and so forth. Again some will only use this as a home turn on, never to venture out. Others will venture out some, then some of those will become full swingers. Take not that you and your partners choices to start swinging can vary below are just a few samples:

Party-houses and on-premises clubs
They say this is the easiest and best possible way to start swinging. For one it gets you out watching, observing what is going on. Along with the introduction to other swingers. All done through various parties and events. This again lets you join, or set back and watch until your ready to join in. I hear many people say this is not for them. What if the run into someone they know. Trust me...they are not wanting people to know where they are, what they are doing, so the community of swingers is like a private community. We do not go around spreading things about other people. Mainly because we do not want those things said about us. I have seen brothers and sisters come eye to eye at clubs, neither knowing about the other person. By chance they just happen to be at the same place...once out of 10 years. They are wonderful friends now, but still the rest of the family has no ideal. Again co-workers and a boss meet once, nothing was said and work went as usual. Heck once a daughter met her own father, do you think she was going to tell mom and explain what and why she was there? It is highly unlikely anyone will find out about your lifestyle of swinging.

As far as the home parties, some are really small and laid back. While others expect certain kinds of swingers to be active. many times they are not so much into the watchers, and newbies. Then again, sometimes they accept them in on a very low bases. Because homes have less room for people/couples the expectation of swinging is held high. However, again it is like clubs, you just have to try getting in, do not get discouraged, and go for the gusto, in the area that your looking for. There is never anything wrong with starting out slow.

With that said I remind people to know there are things that you do. What goes on in clubs, parties, and in the community stays in the community, it does not go outside that area. Therefore, when your walking down street and you see someone from the club you do not run up and say going to the nudist party this weekend? You have to be careful what you say where...they could be with their mother, or another person not aware of the lifestyle. You can say hi in the passing. Usually if they want to talk or feel safe they will come to you. I have had this happen...my mother with me...asking who is that...I say someone I know, let it go...or if I want to talk in a few seconds I say I will be right back, and go to them in another area, out of ear reach. Then again, they may also be with someone and can not really talk. You may have to stand nearby and just hang out looking at an outfit, in hopes they come to you. However, we all know we can be walking down the street and total strangers say hi, or strike up conversations. There is an out...as long as people remember not to be blurting out things like naked party..so forth. If they give you the brush off quickly means they just can not talk. JUST be very careful outside the walls of the parties, and so forth.

Remember, lots of people are trying the swingers lifestyle any more. This is making it a fierce competitions for places. That usually only allow a small amount of first-timers admission to such events. Another point is even if you do get in. You have to remember there are usually memberships to clubs are quite expensive. Usually what goes on inside is more activity than newbies want to be involved in. Not saying it is bad, just be prepared. Many activities can be just watched. Again if your not bi-and those woman are there, or your not wanting to participate sexually yet, you have to understand you could be approached. Normally if you say new, and observing is enough for most to move on. Some will set and chat. Again...be prepared and not so shocked by that way out stuff does not make you run away.

Who Should Swing?

There are no set limits about a person or couple that can join the swinging community. However, the majority of the swingers in this community are established couples who are married, or at least know something about each other for some time, and having a strong bond. A strong bond means that you can trust each other, believe, and know they are doing things to enhance the relationship your in. When someone reaches out, cheats, or does things that turn more into just trying to make the fun all about them, it causes issues and problems. This is not just between the two people, but shows up in the swingers community. There is no one excluded, including singles. Anyone can be a swinger. There are no real limits or rules for couples or individuals who wish to enter into swinging lifestyles.

However, please note that those rude, stalkers, and other so called trouble makers and so forth, will be ignored quickly, finding no way to break into the real swinging world. THIS IS A HINT; if your having problems getting in, it means you might have to take a look at what your doing wrong. There is some edquitate that people of all walks of life should follow. Single people usually have a tougher time working into the swinging lifestyle. It can be done.

It is recommended for those couples who wish to enter into a swinging lifestyle to have a strong bond. Your relationship should be founded on mutual respect and trust. It is very true to say that many couples find the thought of having sex with other people to be very attractive and sensual. Also if your a single person you must have respect of others, and understand that your not always going to be included.

What everyone is after is the final results. Which is where each person/couple will find a swinging form. Where they are able to channel in enhancing their own sex lives and primary relationships. Then there is another way to look at swinging. If you or your partner are uncomfortable with people being sexually attracted and/or flirting. Perhaps, you both have hidden agendas in your relationship with one another then swinging is not suitable for both of you.

The whole concept of swinging is built on communication. If anyone, you and or you and your partner can not have an open conversation about each others feelings. Specially those towards other relationship problems. Along with you conversing about sex and anything related to it. Then swinging would only complicate your thoughts, and your relationship. It would then be better for both of you to wait a little while before entering into such “lifestyle”.

This is a lifestyle, where it is made to enhance, make people and couples be able to enjoy each other more, along with filling some of the dreams, and fantasies they may have and the partner is not able to fill totally. One would be again like bondage, or perhaps a threesome-after all it takes three people. AGAIN the main part, the glue that holds it all together is the communication.